These last weeks something is going on.. some of my closest friends are kind of down, sad, depressed.. different reasons behind, some I might agree, some are “no way, get out” situations..
All this brought back to me the reasons why I started a very special list and eventually decided even to start this blog. We all have ups and downs. It is life and there is not much we can do about it. Well, actually I am of the opinion that there is a lot we can do.
We all face, at a given moment in time, problems, difficult decisions, fears that will block us, restrictions set by others (or the worst of them all, by us) and also sheer happines, amazing emotions from love, friendship, joy, just pure joy for no reason…ups and downs.
We might not be able to control what comes from outside, but we can control how we let it affect us. Allow me to share one of my tricks..
Think now about whatever is bugging you.. is there something you can do about it? Then do it (now, yes, now). If not, then don’t worry, as it is not in your hands. At least dont let it sink your mood, dont let it alter your sleep, don’t let it change your pretty smile.
If you can not do it right now or it is actually a lot of things that could be done, do a list with your action points and check them as soon as they are done.
The Happy- list
Normally I am a very optimistic person, happy to be and all that jazz but some years ago I had some important downs in my life and by recomendation I started a very special list of the things that make me happy. Seems easy? Uff! You can not imagine how hard is to see the bright side of things when you are insecure, unhappy, sad, and dont trust a single person on Earth.. (Yep! It was very bad).
I had to concentrate on beautiful things, songs I liked, past happy events, simple things like the soft texture of a fabric, the smell of the rain in my hometown or the taste of dark chocolate (<3) and bit by bit, first by almost obligation and later by habitude, I started to have a kind of decent list. Just the fact of focusing on those things -instead of bleeeep- , actually was changing my mood. Those feelings, those simple thoughts, were such a blessing as they were a distraction from the pain and from destructive thoughts.
Faith and Gratitude
I learned that no matter what.. there is always light after the tunnel, the sun always comes after the storm and hearts are more flexible that doctors will ever believe.
I still write on the list and some of the things, I post them here. The name of the blog is the name of the list and now it is much easier to acknowledge how lucky we are, what great lives we are living and how amazing is life with all its rollercoaster curves and standstill silence moments.
Practice makes perfect so I recommend you start your happy-list today and thank God, the Universe, or whatever you believe in, for those simple happy moments. When you are down, just go back to your list, try to recover the emotion, the feeling of happiness that you felt when you chose that thing, that memory for your list… be grateful because if you like this sunset, there is people that might no been able to see it, enjoy your food, as some are struggling and call your mum, as she is missing you and will give you love-credits to feel supported.
Oh! my.. I hope the post is not too long because I still want to invite you to start a shared happy-list on the facebook page of the blog. The link for the event is here..Just copy and paste on the navigation panel.
Lets create a list of happy-things that in case any one of our entourage is needing, is there.. add freely and invite your friends to add their happy moments too. Post messages, pictures, quotes, whatever makes you smile.
Share the love and Just be happy!
Luv, Support and Light,